This will be my final post about the Enneagram, rounding out a short three-part series. In my first post, I described how the Enneagram helped me understand myself better and fostered self-growth, after I figured out and accepted that I was a Type One. My second post shared how the Enneagram helped me appreciate my spouse more and navigate conflicts better in my marriage.
This post will talk about how the Enneagram can improve your relationships with everyone else: coworkers, friends, family… anyone.
After learning what another person’s Enneagram type is, I can begin to understand why they would think and act the way that they do (which is crucial if they think and act differently than me!) It’s easy to judge the actions of other people when they don’t line up with what we think we would do in a situation. We often assume the worst about others: they are simply being inconsiderate, they haven’t thought it through, they’re living in ignorance…
Instead of immediately judging others for doing things differently (I’m looking at you fellow Ones!) we can ask ourselves questions like:
What would motivate a person to do that or act like that?
Why is a particular issue so important to them?
What internal struggles could this person be facing at this moment that might be influencing their actions?
Motivation is a huge component of fully understanding the Enneagram. Two different types on the Enneagram could perform an identical action for very different reasons. This is why you aren’t supposed to identify another person’s type for them – only they will truly know their own motivation for doing or not doing something.Read More »