A few years ago, I decided that I wanted to try to do more performing. I know this may seem strange coming from an introverted librarian, but I do have a bit of a theatrical side (and definitely a dramatic side – just ask my husband!)

I naturally gravitated towards the arts as a kid.

I had always loved dressing up as a child – I would wear costumes out in public on a regular basis. My favorites were a bat costume and Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz.

I grew up singing a cappella in church, learning how to read music and sing the alto part at a young age. And I loved to sing, whether it was church hymns or Disney princess songs, I just loved singing!

And speaking of Disney, I really wanted to be an animator for Disney when I was in 2nd and 3rd grade. I would practice drawing scenes from The Lion King when I had free time in school.

I took piano lessons for a few years and played the clarinet in junior high band.

I never took dance lessons as a kid, but I loved dancing (I mean, who doesn’t?) When I was a young teen, the popular artists of the time were Britney Spears, N’SYNC, and Backstreet Boys (shoutout to all my fellow Millennials!) I had this VHS tape called Darrin’s Dance Grooves, and I spent hours learning the You Drive Me Crazy Britney Spears dance (and had to manually rewind the tape every time I wanted to restart the dance!)

In high school, I tried out for a few plays and was part of the ensemble in A Midsummer Night’s Dream and Rebecca Nurse in The Crucible.

Fast forward to my senior year of high school. I tried out for another play (I can’t remember which one) but I do remember the feelings of surprise and shame when I realized I didn’t see my name on the cast list.

Fast forward again to my freshman year of college. I was really excited about the chance to get involved in theatre and choir. I tried out for the Homecoming musical, Beauty and the Beast. For some reason all they had available were ensemble roles by the time I tried out. I remember there were a bunch of us trying out as a group, and we all had numbers pinned to our shirts. The casting directors watched us a few times and then called out the numbers they wanted to have continue on to the next round. Unfortunately, my number did not get called.

Okay, so theatre hadn’t worked out, but I still had a chance for choir. There were two main choirs, sort of like A-team and B-team choir. During my audition, the choir directors were very encouraging, and they told me I was actually very good at sight reading music. I was so confident that I would get a spot in at least one of the choirs that I almost couldn’t comprehend it when I didn’t see my name on either of the lists – I remember just staring and staring, trying to find my name, and again the terrible feeling of shame overwhelming me.

I was devastated. I don’t think I ever let on to my friends or parents how crushed I was. At that time in my life, I very much avoided outwardly showing my feelings. I was pretty good at pushing those feelings down and pretending everything was okay.

After that it felt like a switch flipped in my brain – I decided I was obviously not cut out for pursuing anything in art, theatre, or music – and so I just stopped trying. I convinced myself it was time to move on towards becoming an adult and getting a “practical” career (which at the time I decided was being a teacher – ironically that did not last very long!)

I really didn’t imagine that theatre would ever be a part of my life again… but life continues to surprise me.

Fast forward many years later, and I have a son, Calvin, who decides he wants to try dance – and it turns out, he’s actually really good at it! He does ballet and gets to perform at Abilene’s iconic Paramount Theatre. It’s a gorgeous theatre located downtown and it just celebrated it’s 95th birthday!

He’s also an amazing artist.

And when he starts taking piano lessons, it’s clear he’s pretty gifted at that too.

I was ecstatic – I could live vicariously through my kid and watch him get to live out my dreams! (A mom’s gotta dream big, right?)

I convinced Calvin to try doing musical theatre last summer (2024) with APAC. You had to be at least 8 years old to participate, and he turned 8 the DAY BEFORE the camp started – so I’m pretty sure he was the youngest participant there! The musical they performed was Shrek Jr. Every kid who signed up for the summer musical camp is guaranteed a part, but they still have auditions to see who gets what role. Calvin had auditioned for a speaking role, but didn’t get it – he ended up in the ensemble (AND as little Shrek, which wasn’t a speaking part, but was still really cool!)

I remember the day Calvin learned what role he got, he was disappointed. Despite this being his first musical theatre experience ever, and him being the youngest kid there, he felt like he had failed. I tried to explain to him that this was all part of the theatre process, and it didn’t mean he wasn’t talented, but that as he gained experience he might get more roles.

I didn’t want him to give up on something when he had so much potential. I didn’t want him to be afraid of failure or taking risks.

And then it hit me – that’s exactly what I had been doing for years. As an Enneagram 1 (aka. Perfectionist) I had avoided or quit anything whenever it was apparent I wasn’t immediately perfect at it. I had given up on theatre and singing and a pursuing a career in anything I didn’t think I would be guaranteed to succeed at (like being an animator for Disney) – because of the fear of failure.

There’s a good reason to fear failure – it hurts. A lot. Especially if you’re the type of person that sometimes ties their self-worth to their achievements.

However, I knew that modeling risk-taking, especially a willingness to fail, would be extremely important for my kid. But it meant that I had to finally face some of my own fears and hurts that I had been avoiding for so long.

When I allowed myself to finally tap into my true feelings, I knew that performing was still something I really missed and wanted to try again. I had been taking baby steps towards this goal. In 2022 I auditioned to become a CALF dramatic reader for Abilene’s annual literacy festival. And I got in! While this felt like a big step for me, I knew I was still avoiding something really scary: trying out for a play.

Well it was time for me to put myself out there and take a risk (for my kid!) I was still so intimidated by the audition process, but in the fall of 2024 I signed up for an audition slot for a very new play the Paramount was putting on called John Proctor is the Villain. I figured if I didn’t get a call back, it would be a great way for me to model “failure” to my son – and if I did get a call back, that would be extremely exciting!

Well… I got a callback. Which later led to me being offered the part of Ms. Gallagher in John Proctor is the Villain. This play deserves an entire blog post on its own – but for now I’ll just say that it was amazing and emotional and meaningful and I told my husband I was so grateful he supported me pursuing theatre because it felt like part of me was alive again – a part I hadn’t known I was missing so much.

Initially I was convinced I had risked auditioning just to be an example for my kid – but I realized that it was also something I needed to do for myself. I needed to face my fears and old hurts. I needed to admit to myself that performing was actually something I really wanted to do. And I also needed to realize that just because I had “failed” a few times in the past, it didn’t mean I had no talent at all. It didn’t mean I needed to completely give those things up.

Earlier this year, I decided to try my luck again and audition for the Paramount’s summer musical: Seussical. As you could guess, the audition included singing. I chose a song from Shrek the Musical (yes, the musical my son had just been in!) and sang I Know It’s Today.

It was really hard not to second-guess myself during the audition process. The shame of being rejected so many years before, and the fear that it might happen again, were things that I had to come to terms with.

But just having the courage to audition felt like a success – I had gotten out of my comfort zone and taken a risk to try something new!

And I’m so glad I did, because I am honored to get to share that I am performing in the ensemble of Seussical this year!

Being in this show so far has been fun, intimidating, thrilling, overwhelming, and a million other emotions! It’s also been really healing to the younger version of me that was so scared of failing that she gave up doing certain things she loved.

I recently saw a quote by author Glennon Doyle that has really rang true for me:

The braver I am, the luckier I get.

When I’m brave, I can take risks and even fail every once and a while. When I’m brave, I can have the courage to be true to myself. When I’m brave, I can live life to the fullest. And that does feel pretty lucky.

I’ve had a few people recently tell me that they are so excited for me to be part of Seussical and they have always thought it would be so fun to be in a musical. I mentioned that they too could try out for a musical someday, and I’ve gotten a mix of answers ranging from “oh I’m too old for that” or “I wouldn’t be good enough to make it” or “I don’t have time for it.”

I totally get it – I felt all of those things too – and I do think there are seasons of life where it isn’t possible to make time for a big commitment like a musical.

But I guess what I want to say is, don’t let the fear of being “too old” or “too out of practice” or “not being good enough” stop you from pursuing something that could be truly meaningful and beautiful if you had the courage to try. For me, it took almost 20 years to get back to a place of being ready to put myself out there again by auditioning. But I’m so grateful I did.

Whatever it is you love doing – whether it’s art, dance, music, theatre, rock climbing, or bird watching… I hope that you find a way to still make time for it. Being an adult shouldn’t mean you have to just do boring adult things – it’s so easy as we get older to lose our ability to imagine and dream.

Thank you to those who have inspired, encouraged, and cheered me on in this process. Thank you to those who gave me a chance to be a part of Abilene’s theatre community – and for making it a welcome and accepting space. ❤

Thanks for reading!

P.S. – tickets are on sale right now for Seussical! It’s going to be amazing! I am constantly amazed by the talent of everyone involved in this production!